The Origin of the Story

It may seem that the introverts are isolated from people, but in fact they are busy and indulged in thinking and internal analysis of things. Introverts prefer to keep a distance from intruders and strangers and move cautiously if the circumstances require contacting them. If introverts limit contacting and mingling with strangers, this does not mean that the introverts hate them or disdain them, but rather it is an indication that the opportunity to get closer to them is still early.

Sometimes we seem boring or impatient, but in fact the idle tales and superficial communication and conversation drain our energy. We tend more to value intimacy and seriousness in conversation and dealing. It may also drain our energy easily, if we were among a crowd of people or a large crowd. In these situations, strangers (extroverts) may feel that we are rude and avoiding them, especially when we apologize for attending public events with too much noise and exaggeration in everything. This psychological difference and averting of the human mind prove to the extroverts that we are collaborators and humble, if we were in an environment that would be consistent with our psychological and biological identity.

It is a mistake to think that all introverts are isolated and lonely. Even if they were, what is the fault and misdeed in such matter as long as you the extrovert shall not be at risk? The unambiguous truth confirms that the vast majority of introverts do not prefer solitude or loneliness.  The introvert owns a small circle of close associates with whom he/she enjoys spending time. Although they prefer and appreciate times of solitude, the introverts averagely tend to solitude not excessively.

Although introverts prefer spending most of their time at home, it does not mean that they are mentally ill or psychopaths. Introverts find stimulation and comfort beyond description in their internal world which is full of ideas and reflections. This internal stimulation is a healthy, rich and useful alternative for introverts instead of other entertainment and enjoyment methods. Introverts strongly tend to sanctify comfort, security and privacy in their environment; therefore you see them spend long hours at home where they feel the value of life. Introverts do not mind to entertain themselves outside the home, but in a balanced manner if needed.

Due to the fact that a friend is a drawer, the rotten apple injures its neighbors, life is short, even if it is prolonged, you shall find the introverts very selective in their friendships because they are looking for the essence of friendship not its surface and shell. Many introverts have a small circle of friendships, because they are conservative and cautious by their nature from comfortably revealing their privacy in front of strangers. The conservation and caution of introverts in the first years of their education may slow their speed in making wide friendships, but that does not mean that they tend to absolute isolation.

Depression may be associated with subjectivity or introversion, but there is great difference between the two. Science confirms that the depressed patient struggles to emerge from his isolation or his melting pot while the introvert finds his pleasure, comfort and most focus in isolation (i.e. selective solitude). Depression does not distinguish between extroverts or introverts. Both are exposed to depression. But it should be noted that the vast majority of introverts enjoy the highest levels of satisfaction and tranquility in their lives.  God gave introverts inner peace that protects them against self conflict with itself and with the world. Although they face obstacles sometimes, the introverts possess a remarkable capacity to learn from their experiences and to get rid of any restrictions that may be imposed by the challenges of life on them. This is contrary to depressed patients.

Indeed, sometimes we might work outside of the ordinary, but we are not a source of threat to others or a moving anger mass. Introverts feed their senses by ideas and reflections, which flow in their internal world. It is impossible to find an introvert whose energy, creativity and distinctiveness are inspired by other object or existence. Such behavior may make the introverts seem weird and eccentric in some situations and they seem unique in other situations. Swinging between strangeness and uniqueness has created several introversive inventors and thinkers who pumped new blood in human veins away from cloning or surface.

The quietness, serenity and tranquility of introverts may impose the quality and attribute of hating or avoiding people. From the reality perspective, we cannot assert that all introverts hate people and avoid mingling and contacting them, but most of them have good feeling about all people. There is a contrast and difference between being present with people and loving to contact and mingle with them. Introverts love psychological tranquility and peace, self-culture and contacting people moderately. If the verse was reversed, subconsciously the introverts may tend at such time to impatience and nervousness.

While the general public finds their pleasure in idle talks and tales, the introverts prefer to distance themselves from these atmospheres. The introverts find what they want in waiting before speaking. They carefully listen to any discussion before they express their opinions. If the meeting was crowded with people at such time the introvert finds some embarrassment in expressing his opinion. Thus, the introvert tends to silence. The silence for the introvert in these situations is wisdom and courage. What is the point of the introvert’s expression of his opinion among a crowd of people that see the intellectual difference is a rebellion against the culture of the herd? Hence, the introverts are wronged as they are described that they do not like to talk or do not have something to say. The introverts have plenty to say, but they choose where, how and when to unleash their conversations.

The general public believes that introverts lack social intelligence. This is sometimes the reason for their reluctance to participate in public discussions beside tranquility and calmness of their personality. On the contrary, if the people became silent to listen and see the immanent of matters at such time, they shall realize that the introverts have inexhaustible source of culture, science and wisdom. It is not necessarily judging the silence as being foolishness. Do we build nations by whirring, tinkling and howling?

It is the most egregious and ridiculous lies. The general public believes that the introverts’ preference for individual and independent work is an indicator for planning a plot or conspiracy. Furthermore, the general public may also feel suspicion and doubt about the behavior of introverts due to their caution in dealing with the outside world. In fact, the proudness of the human and the light of the world are my dear beloved introverts who are not impostors and deceivers. We may find a few of them are practicing tricks and using such tricks to reach their goals, but the vast majority of introverts love solitude and loneliness to refresh their activity and to inspire positive energy that assist them to progress and excellence.

It is a scientific proven fact that shy people are introverts and not vice versa. It is not necessarily that all introverts are shy. They are conservative or in other words they tend to deepen personal matters. They do not intrude on the lives of others. The fine line between shyness and introversion lies in the fact that shyness is a phobia of contacting with people, while introversion is reflected in the pleasure of mingling with people without excess or negligence (i.e. not to exaggerate in the presence of large numbers of people).

Regardless, we may see extroverts or even introverts with low self-confidence. It should be noted that introversion is not scientifically defined and not paired with possessing self-confidence. Low self-esteem may also seem obvious in extroverts or even ambiverts (balanced personalities). Such quality may manifest differently in introverts if any. In general, the concept of self-confidence does not disturb the vast majority of introverts. The introverts’ desire of isolation or optional solitude (seclusion) is not an indicator of a lack of self-flagellation and self-confidence.