Self Questions

Shyness is fear or dread of social situations that may cause loneliness or isolation from the outside world. Introversion (self-motivation) is a natural feature in the personality or divine imprint as a fingerprint. Some studies indicate a relationship between introversion and shyness or dread. However any of us, without exception, may become shy regardless of the percentage of his/her extraversion or introversion.

The last statistics indicate that the proportion of introverts in the world is more than 50%. Yes, we as human power possess half the world or more by our knowledge, work, skills and creations. The coming shall be the greatest, God The Most Generous Willing.

According to scientific studies, there is not any relationship between introversion or depression or even mental illness. There are few studies that indicate a slight relationship between introversion (self-motivation) and anxiety or dread.

- Enjoy the spirit of leadership and its art, but they may overlook such grace or bless.
- They deepen their ideas and if they interpret it to the reality, their slogan becomes: (the ideal phrase is that which is short and to the point).
- They are characterized by calmness combined with self-confidence. They are thinker and mastermind. They are geniuses of disaster management. Their calmness before taking any action is grace and bless for which extroverts envy them.
- They are the kings of written communication. Writing gives them a psychological comfort. Extraordinary ability to interpret their ideas and deliver them accurately and professionally. You find them masters of social networks, which are their escape and weapon in expression and effect.
- If they become leaders, their solitude period with themselves shall increase. The solitude for them is an urgent need to sharpen the mental and physical energy, to raise and strengthen determination.

All of humanity is characterized by varying degrees of introversion or extraversion. We have in our hands the ability and choice to become more givers or to increase the proportion of contact with others. We have absolute freedom to enjoy all the social activities. We also have the right and the supreme word to explicitly announce it to others that we need solitude or isolation to boost our energy or charge the psychological battery, which is namely body, intellect and spirit energy.

It is important to realize that the need of extroverts for contacting with people countervails the need of introverts for seclusion. Perhaps one of the most important priorities for the success of friendship and relationship is that both parties must realize the extent of their psychological differences and that the difference is integration and strength. Difference is not as some people would portray by being repulsion and collision. You should encourage the extroverts to look for activities or places that are compatible with their personalities and their passions. But you, Dear introvert, should find your world that you want apart from the fuss, noise or nuisance if possible.

No. Always remember that introversion is reflected on an occasional scale (in the far right is extroverts and in the far left is introverts). The closer one of the categories becomes from the center or the middle, the lower acuteness and intensity of the original description become. Then, balance between both descriptions shall increase. These psychological and behavioral changes may result from the accumulation of life experiences (for example, a new job, moving to a new city, marriage, etc.) or simply differentiation in activities (for example, you may see a person avoids public events, but such person may innovate, create and captivate everyone if he delivered a speech before a gathering of people).

There are several ways to learn about your character. The most famous one is the Myers-Briggs Personality Analysis, which drew inspiration from Carl Jung’s rules.

God has granted varying capabilities of introversion and extraversion for each one of us. It is a fantasy to find someone extremely introvert or extrovert. Each of us has a specific place along the line or scale. But what is the secret of difference? There is conclusive scientific evidence which origin is the human brain and the human ability to react with the outside motivator or stimulator (i.e. people, sound, food etc). It should be noted that the introvert reacts or responds at a faster rate with the motivator or stimulator more than the extrovert. Here lies the divine secret in the biological variation of the personalities.

It is possible that in some cases when the personality of the parents is rude or impulsive, or even stressful or compressive, then the introvert is forced to fake his personality or in other words to put a mask in front of people in order to advertise his character and highlight its opposite. There is a phase in our lives in which we realize that our calmness and impulsion is acceptable or criticized. If we knew that our origin energy (introvert “introversion” and extravert “extraversion”) is criticized or unacceptable, then we can compensate the personal difference by acquiring and developing qualities that make us more acceptable or attractive to the other party. For example, in order to integrate or abide by custom or tradition, the introvert shall be more impulsive and boisterous, while the extravert shall resort to rein his impulsion or recklessness. This temporary or circumstantial adaptation may become healthy if a person has voluntarily practiced and may be considered an additional skill that is worth appreciation. In other cases such cope may become harmful and destructive, if it was imposed and forced in order to gain admiration of others or to remain in the circle of attention.

You are certainly of those who are called ambivert or omnivert (i.e. balanced personality). The balanced personality has dual qualities of introversion and extraversion by balanced degree. You feel your full energy if you were among people and in solitude and isolation as well. You may find both environments to be difficult (demanding or exhausting) depending on the situation or circumstance. Balanced personalities are in the middle of the scale, while some of them are approaching slightly to one of the two sides (to the right where extraversion manifests or to the left where introversion appears). We can also imagine our character as inherent and acquired qualities. For example, the person may see himself as being introvert to the core. At the same time, certain openness skills also may appear in order to accomplish some of the personal goals or projects. This cope does not necessarily make a person extrovert, but it is possible to increase the extraversion or social energy inside the person.